提问 HN：我好像不想再从事科技行业了？
3 分•作者: wanttoquittech•8 个月前
我在科技行业做了很长时间的软件工程师，现在意识到这份工作让我很痛苦。从表面上看，我觉得我应该拥有一个非常成功的职业生涯：高薪远程工作，资深/骨干级别，技术能力比较全面，后端方向专精，同事/领导也都不错，等等。但实际上，我过得很糟糕！我在每个职位上的任职时间都很短，因为我总是会选到一些工作，我的领导/同事们在我之前就离职了；我的积蓄被工作压力导致的健康问题耗尽了，所以我无法承受在两份工作之间有太长的空档期；我最终入职的雇主，无论合同工还是全职员工，似乎总是对工程团队提出几乎不可能完成的要求，从而破坏了团队的士气；诸如此类的问题还有很多。我去看心理医生，也看了很多医生来治疗我因工作而产生的健康问题，但我感觉再多的治疗和药物也无法解决根本问题。
我觉得自己很失败，无法胜任这份本应是最优越的职业之一。如果我能接受50%-60%的降薪，以换取更低的压力/更好的工作与生活平衡，我想我会毫不犹豫地接受，但我现在甚至不知道这样的工作是否存在。
我该如何摆脱这种困境？难道软件工程师这个职业真的不再适合我了吗？
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I’ve been working in tech as a SWE for a good while now, and I’m realising it’s making me miserable. On paper I feel like I should have a very successful career: high-paid remote work, senior/staff level, reasonably-generalist with backend specialization, generally good coworkers / managers, and so on. But in reality, I’m doing terribly! I have relatively short tenure in all my roles, because I somehow keep picking jobs where my manager/coworkers start quitting before I do; my savings were drained by health issues caused by work stresses, so I can’t afford to take an extended period between jobs; employers I end up with, regardless of contract or FTE, always seem to end up making near-impossible demands of engineering that ruin the team’s morale; the list goes on. I see a therapist, I see a number of doctors for the health issues I’ve ended up with, but I feel like no amount of therapy + meds is going to fix the underlying issue.<p>I feel like I’m a failure for being unable to handle what should be one of the most-privileged careers that exists. If I could take a 50-60% pay cut to have a guarantee of reduced stress / better work-life balance, I think I would take it without much thought, but I don’t even know if these jobs exist at this point.<p>How do I get out of this situation? Is being an SWE just not right for me anymore?