Ask HN：如何更好地与团队成员共事
1 分•作者: cutlilacs•9 个月前
这种情况在我的职业生涯中发生过很多次。我被分配与另一位开发者共同负责一个功能，我一直都希望能与他们合作。公平地分配工作，通过协作来设计。但每次，与我搭档的人似乎都会做出一些我看来具有“毒性”或不合作的行为。他们经常试图承担大部分重要的部分，而把更琐碎的任务留给我。在某些情况下，他们甚至会用自己的风格重做我的工作，甚至没有和我讨论过我可以做哪些修改来更好地符合他们的期望。
就在最近，我与另一个人合作完成一个功能时，他试图说服我们的经理，我们应该分开设计不同的方案，然后看看哪个更好。我在讨论中反驳说，我们不应该在没有充分理由的情况下重复工作。我的经理似乎同意了我的观点。
现在，我开始怀疑这是否只是我的问题，也许我做错了什么？在我看来，我真的很努力地想一起构建东西，但其他人似乎都很有竞争性，并且总是做一些让我不舒服的事情。
有没有其他人也有过类似的经历？非常感谢任何建议或指导。
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This has occurred multiple times in my career. I was given a feature to co-lead with another dev, and I always wanted to be cooperative with them. Split the work fairly, try to come up with designs through collaboration. But everytime it seems that the person I'm paired up with does things that I view as toxic or uncollaborative. They would often try to take most of the important parts for themselves and try to leave me with the more mundane tasks. And some cases, they would just redo my work in their own style, without even a discussion on what I could change to more align with their expectations.<p>Even recently, someone I was paired with do complete a feature try to convince our manager that we should work separately on different designs and see which ones is better. I did argue back in this discussion stating that we shouldn't duplicate work without a good reason. My manager seemed to agree.<p>Now I'm wondering if this is just a me issue, perhaps I'm doing something wrong? In my view, I'm really trying on building something together, but everyone else seems to be competitive and constantly doing things that rub me the wrong way.<p>Anyone else have experience with this? Any advice or guidance would be much appreciated.